Mindfulness has, at times, been called a ‘wise gate-keeper’, protecting our minds,
as to what serves us and not feeding what doesn’t serve us.
Our interest in mindfulness often comes to us in a time of crisis.
We can’t control the waves of life: it’s part of being human. But we can, through
our practice, learnt to ride the waves more skilfully.
How do we react to stress – the minor irritants or the greater difficulties?
What do we do? (maybe ask someone who knows you !!!)
Our habitual patterns often include:
Get busy. – don’t have to think about it
Ostrich behaviour: – hope problem goes away e.g. the TV/’phone spacing out.
Worry – think. Try to work it out. Analyse.
Irritable/anger – Blame someone else.
These are all understandable – we want it to be different, but this can make us even
It’s like the story of the two arrows.
The first arrow is the situation e.g.back pain, family, money or health problems.
The second arrow is the layer of suffering we put onto it: e.g. resisting, pushing
away, denying our vulnerability.
I like the metaphor for protective mindfulness, of an anchor. In different situations, boats need different anchors.
Anchors keep us safe, they ground us, in mild discomfort bringing our attention to the breath can help stabilise us.
In more stressful stormy seas, bringing our attention to our feet ,or buttocks on the seat . Or our hands and fingers, just bringing attention to them.
Standing as an armed warrior ,with fierce compassion.for yourself .
Knowing with a kind awareness what we can turn towards or what we may need to turn away from in that moment.
Then, asking yourself ‘In the midst of this what do I need?? ‘Can I befriend myself
Take refuge in compassion.
Nurturing and cultivating this compassionate practice as we would a small plant emerging in the Spring sunshine .
Do contact me if you want to discuss anything further .
With much love and kindness to you all .
Our Monday Mindfulness & Self-Compassion evenings are open to you all from 7.30 – 8.30 p.m.
A voluntary payment of £3/session is appreciated, but not essential.
Please let me know if you wish to join the group and I will send you more information and the Zoom link.